Posted by: Nadine | October 4, 2009

When is enough, enough?

I am adding to my list….

17.  Let go of the people in your life who pretend to be your friend but chronically let you down.

This one I’ve been working on for quite some time, but it’s time to shit or get off the pot….  There are a few people who, if I run into, they are full of smiles and “howareya’s”, and they occasionally invite me when they are throwing a party (I’m guessing they need a seat-filler) but other than that they really can’t be bothered with me.  They lie, they ignore my attempts to contact them, they say they’ll come out when invited then not show up, without a phone call or anything….  To tell the truth, they are fake and insincere, and yet I struggle with just letting them go.  What it boils down to, is that I don’t want to hurt their feelings, even though they have no qualms about hurting mine.  It’s a role I’ve played ever since I was a kid, and it’s time to stop.

So what do you do?  Do you just cut them out completely?  Do you take them off your Facebook?  Do you confront them about their selfish behaviours?  Where’s the happy medium between being their doormat and telling them to piss right off?  Why even bother having someone in your life if they continually let you down?

Why can’t people just be fucking real?  If you don’t want to hang out, if deep down you really think I’m a loser, FINE, I’ll be happy to move right along.  Just be fucking honest, so I can quit wasting my time on you, okay?!?


Responses

  1. oh well um I’ve been meaning to um .. tell you .. um…
    LOL

    Yeah I hate that shit, I’m all blunt now :D. I”m having the hardest time not just saying hey.. WHAT:S THE DEAL… to people. 😛

  2. See I just don’t what the best approach is – tell them outright that I’m not interested in being a there only when it’s convenient for THEM, or just smile and wave when I see them and keep the lowest possible expecations of them….


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